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19 May 2010

**I Feel Stupid!!** {Not The First Time!}


 So, I went to my son's open house at his school tonight and his kindergarten class put on a little program for the parents. They sang a few songs and danced for us, it was so sweet! Every time I go to these things, I tear up and feel like bawling. I can't believe I have a son, two sons, and every once in a while I have to pinch myself to know it's true. And when he draws me pictures or sings at school, or I attend field trips with him, it makes me so happy and proud to have my boys in my life. It's one of those things you think of when you first find out your pregnant and you and your husband say to one another; I can't wait until he makes me a macaroni necklace{yes, I'm looking forward for this}, or when he's in his first school play, or...

Anyway it was bittersweet, but by the end of the night I felt stupid. 

As I was standing there, waiting for my son to start singing, I looked over and saw this guy I had gone to high school with forever ago. He was standing with his wife and children, and I kept debating whether or not to run over and say hi. He was a really nice guy in high school, so my mom who was with me told me to go on over and say hi, so I did. So this is how it went...
Tap, tap, tap on his shoulder, "Hi, are you------?" "Yes." {with a strange look on his face}
"I'm Melinda, we went to high school together and had a class together. Do you remember me?"  {Another strange look mixed this time with confusion and annoyance} "Ahh, kind of, ahh..." In the mean time his wife is looking at me and I didn't want her to think I was trying to pick up on her husband at a kindergarten program, so I tell her my name and that I went to high school with her husband and we exchange a few words about our children and what teachers they have and that was it! The guy never said to me, Oh, nice to see you or have a good night, not even a smile! Now, whether he remembered me or not, let's have a little more manners and say something polite. I felt so dumb to have put myself out there like that. I am a shy person by nature anyway, so that was a lot for me!
You know how you remember someone from your past, and you kind of have a certain image of them in your mind planted there until one day you come face to face with that person again and it's either right on the money or completely so not right? Well my memory of this guy was completely distorted!! Did I also mention that I had a huge crush on this guy in high school? Ahh-Haa, now it comes out. Maybe my pride was a bit hurt that he didn't remember me, but it did feel good to see that I have aged a bit better then him! And besides, I have a fabulous, gorgeous husband and two great kids with loads of good manners!!!
And by the way he never smiled or clapped for the kids the whole way through the program! How can you not smile when your child is singing?
That's all I have to say.


I know these photos have nothing to do with my post, but I had to throw something pretty in!
Have a great night.
Sincerely,
~Melinda

16 comments:

  1. Oh, I can't wait for those same things from my son.
    I am awaiting that first art project to come and hang on the wall. SO EXCITING TO LOOK FORWARD TO.
    It sounds like you really enjoyed yourself other than the awkward meeting. Just thank goodness you didn't end up with such a DUD of a DUDE!
    Amy

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  2. How annoying when things like that happen. It doesn't take much to be polite to someone and by his age you think he could've learnt some manners! It sounds like you had a lovely night apart from that incident and I pray that you have many more wonderful moments to treasure with your sons over the years! xx

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  3. Hi Melinda...well at least now you know it wasn't you all those years ago!! He definitely went home with at least a little regret and maybe even went home to a little bickering with the wife!! LOL. You went home with wonderful memories of your son!

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  4. Good for you to say hello even though you are are shy and it took you out of your comfort zone. If you had not you might still be wondering about him, now you KNOW him. Manners are one of the most important attributes we can teach our children. I am a crier too!

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  5. ~i feel your moments...as a mama, i am forever looking and absorbing and wondering sometimes is this really real! savor each moment...it goes by so quickly.

    as for your encounter...good for you for stepping out of your comfort zone and making an attempt to say hello! i being shy as well know that it is not an easy thing to do...now you know that that once had feeling will be a distant memory and you can always remember the side you may have never seen...you are blessed to have your l♥ve and thats all that truly matters! warm wishes and brightest blessings~

    ps~ the photos are l♥vely!

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  6. He should be the one to feel stupid, not you. Kudos to you for overcoming your shyness to go and say HI and then include his wife in the conversation. He could at least made the effort, but sounds like he's a jerk & totally lacking in manners. YOU were the mannered one and good for you! CLAP CLAP.

    Smiles~
    Marilyn
    PS. Know how you feel....I'm painfully shy in social situations but when I see someone I think I know, I try to at least say HI so if they remember me, they don't think I'm the rude one!

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  7. Good morning....thanks for visiting me while I'm in Texas.

    After reading your post this thought came to mind.......at 63 I have just lived long enough to know that we all Have or "stuff"...some more than others and it takes some longer than others to figure out what is important in life. You are truly one of the lucky ones......you have figured it out early!

    Bless you,

    Jo

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  8. how lucky are you? how "unlucky" is she?! you go girl! :)

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  9. I know, I get teared up at my kid's functions too. They are just so sweet & amazing. I love children! As for Mr. Dumb Dumb No Manners, I think you should feel good about yourself for having the courage to introduce yourself. It is hard to go out of our comfort zones to do this sort of thing. You did the right thing, it's too bad he wasn't able to be polite! I agree w/ Petite Michelle Louise, you are lucky to have your sweet husband & boys and how unfortunate for her!

    xo,
    Shellagh

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  10. Hi Melinda
    I cried at every event my son was in! I'm a pure sap. Wait till he graduates from Kindergarten. I fell to pieces . I cried when he started school too!
    As for that guy? I can so relate. I have run into so many people from High school over the years who sometimes pretend not to remember...sometimes i just go along with them but he was rude and i wouldn't take it personnally...just shows his character especially not clapping to his child's performance!!

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  11. Melinda,
    Your kids are lucky to have such a loving caring mom who comes out to support them. My K moms often cry when their children sing -- My little ones sing with such zest and joy..

    Maybe the guy from high school didn't know what to do- or he was hiding his poor memory.. or he is a complete cad .. I am sorry that he forgot his manners ...
    Hope you have a wonderful weekend and enjoy some great times with your family.
    Regards,
    Anna

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  12. oh, you go girl...that guy sounds like a turd...LOL...i know how much that took for you to go over and greet him...i am quite shy also...i thought i would out grow it...but, at this point i am thinking not...ah well...
    i always cried like crazy when i went to grade school functions for my two boys...i am a bawl baby too...
    thanks for visiting me!!!

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  13. Hi again Melinda, I just wanted to let you know that I have posted about the award that you left for me on my blog today! Have a great weekend! xx

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  14. Hi Melinda - I'm browsing thru your old posts and this is so cracking me up. All I can say is...what a jerk. I'm picturing you sweetly and proudly watching your son, which is what probably put you in a good, confident mood (motherhood can do that sometimes) so you decide to go for it and approach him. Why in the world do people have to act like that? I can tell it only momentarily stung for you, you really have your priorities set in the right order and are very happy with your life. Good for you girl! Who DOESN'T cry (let alone clap!) when their kids perform?!

    Have a great week! Thanks for your very nice compliments on my last post. Hopefully you can make it to one of the shows, I'd love to meet ya'. And I almost forgot again, your jewelry is amazing!
    Blessings to you,
    Missy

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  15. I still make every open house my kids have and yes, with a son in college that means "parents weekend up at San Luis Obispo. Good for you for going over and saying "hello". I applaud you!

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  16. Hi Melinda! Just came across this old post and could so relate!! I did that once at a baptism to a guy I knew very well in high school. It was obvious who I was, and he just stood there {after I went up to him to talk}. It wasn't even a big deal - he had his family, I had mine! I felt soooo dumb! To tell you the truth, ever since then, I don't even bother coming up to people I know from the past anymore to say "hello." :( But that guy is so lame! lol And you're the better person at that!!! :)


    Hugs,
    Jessie

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